People usually see healthy limits as walls, but they are actually bridges which connect people to each other. Intimacy can be reached when honouring those limits. Once you have done this, you feel safe and are open to everything. These limits can change, so you have to pay attention and control how you feel. If think your limits have changed, tell your partner because he or she can’t read minds.
Giving an erotic massage
First you have to decide who is giving the massage and who is receiving it. The person who receives it must lie on his stomach on a massage table, bed or blanket on the floor. Make sure it is comfortable! The person who gives the massage must lean forward and gently put his or her hands on the body of the partner. It is a unique opportunity to honour and make the other person feel good. Feel the harmony in him. A good way to do it is to breath together during a few minutes.
Once you have achieved this, you have you awaken the skin of your partner. Stroke it gently using a feather, hair or with your fingertips. Then, cover the body with oil. To give the massage, make long and slowly massage moves. You are not only stroking your partner’s body, you are connecting with your partner in more ways than you can imagine. Encourage him or her to take a deep breath, make sounds and move his or her body. This allows the body energy to awake, move and break free. Don’t use only your hands to massage, you can’t imagine how pleasant it is when you use another body parts like the hair, arms or your chest. Be playful, curious and creative.
When half of the time is over, ask your partner to turn around. Start massaging the other side of the body with oil and using long moves. Make sounds while touching his or her body like ahh, uhmm ou ohmm. This helps to activate your partner’s energy body.
When your partner is relaxed and ready, offer to explore his/her genitals. In Tranta, we call the sexual organs in different ways: we call the vagina “Yoni”, which means “the source of all life” and the penis “Vajra” which means “thunderbolt.” Start massaging the outside of the genitals with oil. Be gently at the beginning and do it slowly. Give it time to release any tensions in that area. Listen to the body. Look how it reacts and enjoy how it gets excited. Focus on giving the most pleasure you can and try doing different moves. Don’t stop being creative and trying different things. If you wish to do an internal massage, you should use a water-based lubricant. Where is the limit of pleasure? Are you ready to consider the possibility of having multiple orgasms?
To conclude, connect your hearts while spooning, thinking of love, compassion and gratitude. Help your partner to sit up to end with the position of Hearth Salutation. When you are finish, give your partner something to drink (water, juice…) and also to eat (some chocolate or a piece of fruit).
Once you try it, you can share what this experience made you feel. How was it to give and/or receive?
Discover the history of erotic massage with our post: “Erotic massage: history”http://masajistagaymadrid.com/en/erotic-massage-history/